Q&A for Fetlife by Mistress Adrienne

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Fetlife member @blueswallow interviewed me in October 2017. Here is the Q&A!

Q: What would you be doing professionally if you weren’t a Pro-Domme at this time?

A: I need to be my own boss and I need self expression. If I were not a ProDomme at this time, I imagine I'd have found another way to make a business out of my sense of style and point of view.

Q: What’s the most recent item someone gave you from your wish list?

A: I recently received a black latex jodhpur catsuit from Demask! I love it.

Q: Share one or two misconceptions (if any) that people sometimes have about you.

A: People think I don't eat. Which is totally the opposite. I love food, especially pasta. My body is the result of physical discipline, genetics, and making the right choices with food. I don't eat red meat and I rarely take dessert.

Q: Do you consider yourself fearless?

A: No. I believe every human being has fears. What most people consider "fearless", is the ability to explore that which they fear.

Q: Who has had the biggest influence on your career/life?

A: I had an amazing friend that I met when I was eight, who taught me a lot about high fashion, photography, glamour, and art. I was already obsessed with those subjects but she broadened my tastes incredibly. She was the first person to show me books of Helmut Newton. Knowledge and inspiration at a young age has a lot of power to shape one's life.

Q: What’s the best advice you ever received and who did it come from?

A: I am certainly appreciative of good advice and am not above asking for it. However, it only sticks if the receptor agrees with the advice being given. I don't recall any specific advice that would qualify as the best. I remember more the advice I wish I had taken!

Q: If you could get next to anyone famous on a plane, who would it be and why?

A: Peter Berlin. I'd really like to meet him and I don't know where to find him. Also, he is thin and well dressed, which makes for a good airplane partner.

Q: Do you prefer a window or aisle seat?

A: Window

Q: If it existed, would you drink from the fountain of youth?

A: Absolutely, I'm vain and I believe in the pleasures of youth.

Q: Is there a golden rule by which you live?

A: When in doubt, leave it out.

Q: If Hollywood produced a movie about your life, whom would you like to see play the lead role as you? Why?

A: Ideally I would have an opera about my life and Venera Gimadieva would play me. She is young, seductive, full of fire, but also capable of being vulnerable and soft. If Hollywood was interested, I would choose Natalie Portman. She is an amazing actress and looks good with long hair and a shaved head. I'd love to see her in my wardrobe and I would demand to be on the costuming team of any movie about my life.

New Orleans, October 6-10, 2017! Advice for local slaves by Mistress Adrienne

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Slaves that wish to approach Me at Domcon - I do not enjoy the ambiance at convention halls, so if you desire to please Me, be sure to dress well and offer a token of beauty. A slave that has sage or incense to burn will be appreciated. Be polite and helpful. Address Me as Mistress Adrienne.

Slaves interested in session - I have limited availability. You must provide a hotel room and a reference. I'm not bringing heavy bondage equipment.

Slaves interested in being used for photos - Email your experience and a photo of you in slave mode. Include your phone number.

I look forward to embracing the New Orleans vibe and adding my flair to the city. See you soon!

October 6-10, 2017

Leather Dominant Interview by Mistress Adrienne

Photo by Herbert Ashcherman, film

Photo by Herbert Ashcherman, film

The following questions were submitted by Dommes, fans, and slaves via social media.

Q: Do you normally find that someone with a leather fetish also has a boot fetish?

A: Yes. Boots complete the hard-core look. As well, boots offer more leather to be worshipped than a pump or sandal does.

Q: Do you get a lot of men contacting you through email requesting to be your personal slave or trying to get you to give them a cheap thrill?

A: Not too often. It's clear on my web page that I'm a serious Domme. No-nonsense. Plenty of good slaves in my stable. When I am in need of personal slaves, I advertise on social media.

Q: Do you find clients start out with a leather fetish and then progress to more or eventually become slaves?

A: Quite often an interest in leather will bring a man to me, and I will encourage him to experiment under my lead. It always works in my favor. My presence is deep and large, and my leathers are exquisite.

Q: What's the difference between fetishists and slaves?

A: Slaves are willing and ready to submit at any time. A fetishist may not be able to access his submission if the fetish is not involved.

Q: Will you be going to Europe again anytime soon? If so, will you be meeting with Fetish Liza  while there?

A: Yes! A photoshoot with Fetish Liza is on my 2017 list of goals. I plan to spend a lot of time in Europe this year but not until summer and fall.

Q: Which celebrities do you think look good in leather or may have a bit of a leather fetish?

A: One of my favorites is Brigitte Bardot in the late 60s and the 70s. She wore elegant, hip leathers, and I can tell that she became more demanding when she wore them. There is a pair of thigh-high boots she wore all the time that I like very much.

Q: Do you think you capture men's (or women's) attention more when you are wearing leather than when you're wearing non-leather apparel?

A: Believe it or not, no. The attention I get when I'm without makeup, in non-leather clothing, has been a universal confirmation that my power and style come from within. However, I do get recognized as Mistress Adrienne more often when I'm in leather.

Q: Can you pick the closet leather fetishists out pretty easily when you wear leather someplace where it isn't usually worn?

A: I can, but I try not to assume. For instance, sometimes I feel a man gives me a nod of approval out of a shared love for rebellion. As well, when I'm dressed in full leather, quite often I simply shock men on the street; by the time I'm gone, they don't even know what hit them. I'm 10,000 steps ahead of their new fetish for leather.

Q: What has being a dominatrix in NYC taught you about life, people, etc.?

A: More than teaching me about people or life, it taught me about myself. This profession was necessary for me to understand myself fully. To elaborate further would require a book-length interview!

Q: Given the love you clearly have for leather and value of investment, do you feel conflicted about using/wearing your leather in a session where there is a higher potential for damage?

A: Yes. I have dungeon leathers and I have designer leathers. The designer leathers are best worn in public or luxury hotels. I rarely take them into a dungeon. Dungeon leathers are not cheap! They are simply less expensive and easier to clean. I believe my leathers are living objects: The dungeon leathers love to go to session, while the fashion leathers adore taunting in public. They can both cross over, but the expensive stretch leathers and skins (especially in colors) start to whine and cry in a dungeon, where there may be smoke and lube present. Forget about suedes, the prissiest of the bunch.

Q: You have one of the finest leather wardrobes one could hope to see. Just how much time and effort has to go into this?

A: A lot! I sacrifice necessities for expensive clothing. I've been this way all my life. I remember the days when I would be in my apartment in winter shivering in an Azzedine Alaïa coat and my friends would be shaking their heads. Thankfully I'm at a point in life where my slaves take care of my fashion needs so I can spend money on boring stuff like heat, but it still is and always will be a hustle and a search for the best. That's part of the fun, finding and acquiring. Big thanks to all my boys that support my leather addiction!

Q: Are you bisexual?

A: I believe everyone is to some extent.

Q: What is your opinion of vegans?

A: If they are not too militant, I think they are doing well for themselves and the environment. I lived one year as a vegan and I still prefer to eat that way about 60 percent of the time. It's very clean. And I like cleanliness.

Q: Is the pro-Domme lifestyle something you would recommend?

 A: Depends on the person. As one of my kink friends once told me, "You put the 'pro' in pro Domme." I make it look easy but that's part of the illusion. Being a pro Domme is a lot of work and requires skill and dedication beyond looking good and throwing a whip. Most people are lacking in one or more of the following: organization, promotion, scheduling, discipline, self-awareness. Before becoming a pro Domme, ask yourself, "Am I capable of running my own business?" If the answer is no, I'd suggest applying at a house dungeon or being a lifestyle Domme - they have their rewards as well!

 Q: You have clearly invested time, money, and effort in your online presence.  Is this an investment you're happy with?

 A: Yes. In fact, this has been one of my favorite aspects of my journey. It is a way to express myself and connect with people beyond the dungeon. I consider myself an artist first and foremost and my audience is online.

 Q: Where do you see the future of the fetish/BDSM industry heading, what with the explosion of online findoms (and so-called findoms)?  Do you think that growth has damaged the image of dominant women in general?

A: I shudder to think of where the industry is heading, because I feel the intellectualism, authenticity, and avant-garde style I associate with BDSM is no longer the norm. BDSM is becoming more like porn. When I see clips of "Dommes" squealing and moaning while they caress a man's balls with their feet, I feel it is very crude. And because it is popular, it defines BDSM for the younger generation. Same with findom. Perhaps the problem is larger than our industry, is our society not celebrating strong women? The women we celebrate are playing to the pleasures of the average man. The majority of women seeking approval want to look like fembots and blow-up dolls. I believe a dominant woman is intelligent, well dressed, independent, and real. This is not the era of the truly dominant woman. This too shall pass.

 Q: What are your dreams for 2017?

 A: To start work on the book I've always dreamed of assembling. A combination of images and words about my journey in life.

Slut Gratitude for Forced Bi Scene by Mistress Adrienne

"About last night.... Wow!! Just, wow!! I think I was a little too overwhelmed when I left to adequately put into words my gratitude for what You did with/to me last night, so let me say again, "Thank You!!" The sensory deprivation during the scene was really, really incredible, especially when combined with Your absolutely amazing cock, and the poppers. Just the most intense, amazing sensations and feelings being fucked by You!!!  That blindfold is really cool - I think the way that it presses in on the eyes does something, because without the normal input from the eyes the mind goes wild building a 3D world just from the physical and mental stimulation and sensations, and throw a few hits of poppers on top of that and it is mind blowing!! Just thinking about Your cock right now is causing my mouth to open and my pussy to crave You inside me. I have imagined You fucking me plenty of times and it was far better than anything I imagined. I recall loving the feeling when You put me in a hood for that "sluttiest mouth" photo shoot and the blindfold was similar - the tightness feels like a restraint and the sensory deprivation turns on a rich channel of visualization in the mind.    The whole scene was so intense, from the moment I walked through the door of the hotel. I felt so slutty, heart racing, as I walked down the hallway to Your room, and when I knocked on the door quietly I could hear You on the other side shooting photos and figured You were just making me stand out there to build up tension. Well, it may have been unintentional, but I was there at least 5min, getting more excited and nervous, worried that someone from the hotel would come by and ask me why I was standing outside a door listening and waiting. Time does funny things in the mind when waiting in that type of situation. Haha! Great anticipatory mind-fuck! Your Britney soundtrack was so perfect! Best music ever to get flogged to! And fucked. And ass-eaten. I hope You had as much fun as I did. And Your slave ;)  I loved shooting my load into that slutty mouth. Maybe next time we can tag team that ass."

"About last night.... Wow!! Just, wow!! I think I was a little too overwhelmed when I left to adequately put into words my gratitude for what You did with/to me last night, so let me say again, "Thank You!!" The sensory deprivation during the scene was really, really incredible, especially when combined with Your absolutely amazing cock, and the poppers. Just the most intense, amazing sensations and feelings being fucked by You!!!  That blindfold is really cool - I think the way that it presses in on the eyes does something, because without the normal input from the eyes the mind goes wild building a 3D world just from the physical and mental stimulation and sensations, and throw a few hits of poppers on top of that and it is mind blowing!! Just thinking about Your cock right now is causing my mouth to open and my pussy to crave You inside me. I have imagined You fucking me plenty of times and it was far better than anything I imagined. I recall loving the feeling when You put me in a hood for that "sluttiest mouth" photo shoot and the blindfold was similar - the tightness feels like a restraint and the sensory deprivation turns on a rich channel of visualization in the mind.
   The whole scene was so intense, from the moment I walked through the door of the hotel. I felt so slutty, heart racing, as I walked down the hallway to Your room, and when I knocked on the door quietly I could hear You on the other side shooting photos and figured You were just making me stand out there to build up tension. Well, it may have been unintentional, but I was there at least 5min, getting more excited and nervous, worried that someone from the hotel would come by and ask me why I was standing outside a door listening and waiting. Time does funny things in the mind when waiting in that type of situation. Haha! Great anticipatory mind-fuck!

Your Britney soundtrack was so perfect! Best music ever to get flogged to! And fucked. And ass-eaten.

I hope You had as much fun as I did. And Your slave ;)  I loved shooting my load into that slutty mouth. Maybe next time we can tag team that ass."

Q&A Summer 2016 by Mistress Adrienne

The following interview is composed of questions from my followers and slaves. 

Q: How long have you been a Mistress and what got you started?

A: I have been a Mistress for ten years. Becoming part of the scene was not only something I wanted to do, it was something I knew I would do. Fetish and Femdom were inside of me, boiling. However, I was unaware of the pro side and its possibilities for genuine experience. In my mind the BDSM world was a thriving lifestyle scene for those in the know. I imagined the majority of players knew each other and met often in kinky locations. After a depressing search for the lifestyle scene at sex stores and parties and in the Village Voice, I turned to Craigslist. I found an advertisement hiring dominatrices at the Dungeons of Mistress Elizabeth's. I applied and the rest is history. 

Q: What makes a good slave?

A: Humility, patience, selflessness. Faith and trust in his/her Mistress. Eager to meet all demands, even ones that may be challenging or unappealing to the slave. Communication skills. Honesty. A presentable appearance and good behavior in public. Ability to understand and accept his/her failures coupled with the desire and skills to correct them. A positive outlook on life.

Q: What makes a good fan, someone who is not directly involved in the scene but is a fan of it and enjoys watching?

A: A good fan is engaging on social media without being repetitive, generic, or overly chatty. Fans support projects that the Mistress may be working on and find ways to help her live the best life possible. Fans report uncredited images. Fans promote. They collect information and images featuring their favorite Mistress. Fans celebrate her existence without needing anything in return.

Q: Have you ever thought of filming your sessions to allow others to watch?

A: No. Playing for the camera and playing for the session are separate to me. If there was a camera in the room, my focus would be less on the psychic exchanges between players and more on the visual result. I would be thinking about angles, lighting, dialogue, and drama for the sake of content. I am an entertainer and an artist and I take film seriously as a medium of expression. The actual session between two or a few spirits would inevitably change and no longer be a real representation, it would be a presentation. Intimacy is sacrificed when filmed for the public. I cannot fathom a reason I would want to do this unless I was working on a creative project.

Which may happen. I am currently in talks with a filmmaker who wants to make an hour-long documentary about me. If I commit, I will want footage of myself in session. I'm thinking over the types of scenes and players that I'm open to filming. If you have sessioned with me before and feel you may be a good candidate, be in touch. First round of filming is probably going to be in late Fall in NYC. A second filming may take place early in the New Year, perhaps in a different city. 

Q: Have you ever contemplated any kind of surgical enhancements? I'm always curious how women regard this topic.

A: I have not contemplated surgical enhancements. I love the way I look!  I always imagined a Mistress to be a natural Goddess with strong features and the confidence to own a distinctive look. I do my best to be the Mistress of my imagination.

Q: Are you a fan of any other Mistresses ?

A: Yes, of course! I admire Mistresses who have been in the industry longer than I have. Mistresses who express intellectual and/or cultural interests. Mistresses with fabulous wardrobes. Mistresses with specific interests and limits. And of course, Mistresses who are strict.

Q: Are there any Mistresses you would like to work with ?

A: I'd like to work with Fetish Liza. I met her briefly in NYC in 2015. I was intrigued by her demeanor and wardrobe. I like her smile. I feel we would complement each other nicely. It would, of course, be a high-fetish-fashion scene, and that excites me.

Q: Do you mentor?

A: No, although I'm not opposed to doing so. It would have to be a good fit.

Q: When did your fetish for leather start?

A: I began wearing leather at age eight. I begged and begged for a leather jacket and boots and eventually acquired those items as well as a leather bikers cap, from Wilsons Leather! My parents respected leather as quality. 

Q: What is your favorite Doors song?

A: It is painful to limit myself to one Doors song but I can confidently say that my favorite album is 'LA Woman'.

Q: Do you prefere champagne or sangria?

A: I prefer champagne! But in session I prefer bottled water or tea. Always ask before bringing a beverage.